Have you checked Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, etc. today? Author Jessica Fralin wonders if all that public sharing is actually causing us to lose touch with who we really are.

We are the most connected people that have ever lived. We can contact people from a room over or a continent away. We can find the answer to almost any question with the touch of a button. We can learn from & grow with people we’ve never even met, fitting so much of our lives into screens that are mere inches across. We can hear from more voices in one week than others dreamed of hearing from in a lifetime. When we let them, those voices have the power to challenge us, to encourage us, to change us in all the best ways. When we let them, those voices have the power to wound us, to stifle us, to define us in all the worst ways. See—using social media is not the problem. The danger comes when we let social media use us.

The subtle lie that creeps into our hearts is this—we think we are in control. We are using social media however we want. But all too often, social media sets the standard—telling us what’s pretty, what’s acceptable, even what’s morally right and wrong. If we let it, it will even tell us who we are.

Haven’t we found ourselves scrolling through Pinterest boards to find the perfect outfit, only to turn to our own closet dissatisfied? Haven’t we chosen a new profile picture and closed Facebook, only to re-open it every few minutes to check how many likes it has received? Haven’t we felt that little green monster of envy come to life in our hearts as we see friends who get that promotion at work, who look better than ever, who seemingly have it all together?

These are little warning lights, flashing in our souls to remind us that something is not right. Social media was meant to be used as a tool to connect with those we love and admire—it was never designed to tell us who we are. Someone has already done that. The final word has been spoken over us, definitively and passionately, whispering the words we crave most. “You are loved. You are beautiful. You are enough.” We’ve already been defined by the One who created us.

Why swim in the shallow pool of likes and retweets when we could dive into the ocean of worth and acceptance we’re offered in Jesus? In the waves of grace, social media becomes a place for us to share the truth we know, instead of waiting for it to be handed to us through a screen. Best of all, when we’re caught up in the waves of grace, we can’t help but share it. Let’s be the ones who send grace crashing into our newsfeed today. We have already been defined. And we are loved beyond our wildest dreams.