Does the daily-ness of life ever get you down? In this post from our friends at MOPS, Mandy encourages us to see the hope in the mundane and challenges us to “reclaim the everyday.”
“I don’t think life is absurd. I think we are all here for a huge purpose. I think we shrink from the immensity of the purpose we are here for.” —Norman Mailer
We all know moms who would do anything for their kids. But today I truly took one for my team. I crawled under the door of a public restroom because my five-year-old daughter insisted on going in the stall by herself, which of course meant locking the door. She yelled to me that she needed help, which is not easily accomplished when mom is on the other side of the locked door and said child will not hop off the potty to unlock the door. After what seemed like hours of negotiations, the only alternative was to crawl under the stall door. That’s right, hands and knees on the floor followed by a soldier crawl on my tummy under the door to find my five-year-old smiling at me from her perch on the potty.
Hours later I contemplate the other options that I didn’t think of at the time. I could have crawled over the stall. A bit precarious, but certainly more sanitary than the floor crawl I hastily chose as my only option.
As we drove home, my kids happily singing along to some adorable and obnoxious kid CD, all I could think was, “This is what my life has come to. Crawling around on public restroom floors.”
If I am an expert on any subject, I think ordinariness might be it. As a mother of three kids, ordinary is my jam. It is the rhythm to my day, the drum beat that gives cadence to my life.
When I am being completely honest with you I will tell you that while ordinary is my metronome, I have often struggled to find hope within its constant repetition.
And I don’t think I am alone. I know so many people who despise their ordinary existence and think that their life does not have much hope unless they are performing Facebook-worthy acts.
We live in a time and a culture that celebrates the extraordinary, yet so much of life is made up of the mundane. Routine and repetition fill most moments.
I can’t help but feel that our quest for efficiency has stolen life from us, taken our ability to see the hope in the mundane.
I wonder if it is time to make room for more of the ordinary.
Too often, I compartmentalize my life into segments that matter and segments that don’t. Like taking cookies to the old couple across the street brings hope, and doing the laundry doesn’t. This kind of thinking lives me scrambling to check the things off of my do-do list that don’t matter so that I can get to the things that really do. However, my system is broken.
I know this because every once in a while something happens – something that would never show up on a to-do list. Something mundane and completely revolutionary like my 5 year old snuggling up to my side and kissing my forehead. And I realize, “This moment gives hope to my entire existence as a human being.”
So friends, I have an idea: let’s reclaim the everyday. Let’s name it sacred. Let’s choose hope.
And let’s be brave enough to call bathroom floors and bedtimes significant. Let’s consider these questions…
- What is the current rhythm of my day?
- What is keeping me from finding the hope in my day-to-day life?
- What are five moments from today that are seared in my memory as significant?
- What is one thing I can do this week to choose hope in my daily routine?
Women just like you, in every community, are looking for hope. A MOPS or MOMSnext community provides a place for moms to anchor their hope and share their joys and frustrations with other women. The relationships that develop within a group help moms sustain hope during the daily act of mothering, even when they feel they have no more of themselves to give.
Are you looking for a shared sense of hope with other moms? Or do you know that you have hope to offer women in your community? Consider starting a MOPS or MOMSnext group. Be a part of connecting women around you to authentic friendships, practical help and spiritual hope. MOPS will help you get started! Find out more today.