Many years ago I was stuck in a job where I was, shall we say, not a good fit. You know that phrase “bored to tears”? I can tell you from personal experience that it’s not just a saying. There were a lot of lovely (and a few not-so-lovely) people there; some became my lifelong friends. There were good times. But I’ll never forget the time I made a presentation and management’s criticism was that I was “too interesting.” Years dragged on but I could not see a way out; my days felt like a punishment for some unknown crime.
It wasn’t just my job. When my church singles group paired off and got married, I was one of a small handful of females who wouldn’t have made it on the Ark. I tried to fit in with the women’s ministry but gave up after one memorable women’s retreat obviously designed as a “how to be a better wife and mommy” weekend. (The things I learned on that trip about my then-pastor’s sex life may have scarred me for life. Just sayin’.) Clearly, I wasn’t just a failure at finding a fulfilling career; I was also a failure as a woman. It seemed everything I did—everything I was—was wrong.
Then one day I was given a ticket to another kind of event for women and decided to check it out. After the retreat fiasco I have no idea why I went; I must have been bored that weekend or maybe it was the lure of sitting in the company’s suite at the arena. But when I heard the speakers’ stories and watched their friendships unfold on stage, I knew I had found my people. They were certainly interesting; they weren’t afraid to laugh, have adventures, and enjoy life. That night I realized I wasn’t wrong—I was just in the wrong situation.
When I think of what it means to “experience connection” that’s what comes to mind: sitting in my swanky box seat on that long-ago Friday night, listening to women talking and slowly coming to the realization that “they’re like ME!” Knowing that I wasn’t the “only one” gave me strength for the present and hope for the future. And a couple of years later, I wasn’t just going to those events, I was working for the company that created them.
One of the reasons I believe so strongly in the BELONG Tour is that I know there are so many women out there who feel they’re the only one. The only one who feels like a failure. The only one who has experienced this abuse or that loss. The only one without a husband, a child, a purpose, a
You are not alone. Come and meet your people.
You’ll find us at BELONG.